We don't have a prenup, so this means that my wife has a right to at least 25% of my separate property if I die even if I were to disinherit her in my will. I've decided to will her 30% of my separate property (was previously 100%) and 100% of our communal property if I die. The rest of my separate property, including income-producing assets ...AITA- Husband broke something of mine- I think he should pay for it. My husband got me a diecast motorbike about 6 years ago of my favourite motorbike. It was lovingly looked after on my desk at my old job and then again when I went to working from home. In January, I managed to knock it off of its shelf and I was absolutely gutted.When her brother needed help, it's I who gave him money. Why? Because they are MY in-laws, and he's MY brother-in-law. I think it's my responsibility to look after their parents. She thinks it's her responsibility to look after mine in another way. It's absolutely NOT one-sided on my part. My wife Lisa and I have been together for a while.Baby #3 has heart problems. My husband said every time he went to lay him down the oxygen monitor would go off. The thing is Husband didn’t figure out was baby #3 hates anything on his face. So you have to rock him to sleep then carefully put the oxygen on his nose. My aunt said that my husband called her the first night around midnight.OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: The action I took that should be judged is refusing to lend my sister money, as well as showing off my money and lifestyle too much. 2) This could make me the AH if I was wrong and cruel to not help out my sister, and if I handled everything wrong.yeah he traumatized literal children who had lost their father, but somehow he is the victim. the mental gymnastics is astounding.. OP you're NTA btw, but if my husband did this, and if i were struggling with the idea that he had done it maliciously (as you said in another comment).. i'd be rethinking the type of person that i married. these are all pretty big red flags, and at a holiday ...OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I cut my mother off financially and made a petty remark as to what she should do instead. 2. This might make me an asshole because im saying exactly what was told to me as a kid, in response to something i wanted. Some might say i need to leave the past in ...After an argument, my husband went through our finances to see where we could cut back. He was confused when he saw that I had regular reoccurring withdrawals leading back years, and asked me about it. I broke down and revealed my money to him, which not sits at about $47,000. After I told him all this he just broke down sobbing.It's just my opinion, but not too many adult people run away from a loving relationship. I didn't change my surname but for my mental well being, I had to cut ties with my father some time ago, and AFAIK he could never fathom why, although I told him thousand times over the years that he was being toxic to everyone around him.Just 6 months ago, the daughter asked for money for dental implants. I happily told my husband to be as generous as he can be since it's not always the case and she rarely ask for money. After that first time, she kept asking for more. One time it was grocery, next its day care bills, then phone bills.18.4M views. Discover videos related to Aita for Telling My Mom Her Husband Went to His Family Update on TikTok. See more videos about Life Update Divorce and Moving on, My Moms Boyfriend Called Me Part 2, Christmas with Husband Ex Story Time, Hold on My Mom Is Calling, Realizing Ill Be Moms Side of The Family, Test Products Now to Get Paid.My husband likes adventures. But these “adventures” of his, they drive me absolutely bonkers. His well-meaning, fun-intending, pushing us all out of our far too...ADMIN MOD. Aita for explaining to my husband he’s the reason we keep having daughters. I 30 F have 2 daughters and am currently pregnant with my 3rd girl. We just found out this morning. On the drive to my husband’s mothers house he explained how he was a bit disappointed about having a girl. But then he said “I should’ve expected this ...I (32 female) and my husband (38 male) We've been married for 10 years. For the context, I lived in a family so poor that we often lacked the most basic things (like food)and I have had after-effects, like Joey in Friends, Alice doesn't share food !!! My husband thinks that food should be shared and most of the time, I manage to control myself ...As the working parent in my relationship, it is your money as much as it is his. I know this is not how things are viewed in some cultures, yours included by the sound of it, but it is the reality. Without my husband staying home, we'd pay astronomical childcare fees. The amount you save your family in housekeeping and childcare is your earnings.It's just my opinion, but not too many adult people run away from a loving relationship. I didn't change my surname but for my mental well being, I had to cut ties with my father some time ago, and AFAIK he could never fathom why, although I told him thousand times over the years that he was being toxic to everyone around him.Sounds like you are better off on your own I am sorry to hear he put his mother first, just a mummies boy I guess best to get out now or you wont know what she is up to behind your back.OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1.) Telling my husband I can't keep letting him leave open beers in the fridge. 2.) Because it shows that I don't respect my husbands wishes. Help keep the sub engaging!I calmly told him to pack him and his kids stuff and get out of my house and that they needed to stay gone for awhile. I told him I needed space, without harassment and said that I am reconsidering staying in this marriage. He says that breaking vows over kids being excited about a baby "shows my true colors".She told my husband, in front of his brother and sister and all the family, that she and my father in law never wanted him. She said they had only wanted two kids and they were lucky enough to have a boy and a girl and that was all they wanted. But by accident she got pregnant again. They don’t believe in abortions so they “were stuck ...Read this before contacting the mod team. My husband (27M) and myself (28M) have had a pretty rough year financially. We moved to a new city, and both ended up taking lower paying jobs than usual, and have had a hard time budgeting with our new salaries. So, for Christmas we promised we would cut back on gifts for each other, setting a $50 ...But air frying fish may not actually be better because it raises the level of "cholesterol oxidation products" (COPs). One way to lower the amount of COPs when you air fry fish is to add fresh parsley, chives, or a mixture of the two. Research shows these herbs act as antioxidants to reduce the COPs in air-fried foods.Frankly, their reaction about who they would "allow" in their family now and forever absolves you of any guilt about not telling them. You don't need to apologize to them. They need to apologize to you and your husband. As for refunding them, they bought it, unasked, based purely on assumptions they made.Spare-Imagination132. •. NTA, your home is your sanctuary. You have been generous to let them live with you and save money for their own place. A baby completely changes the everything in the house. They are loud, will have to eventually baby proof, parents will tell you to be quiet and not wake the baby, etc..It’s just the dynamics of Saturday that is my issue. poweller65. Just start taking Emma. If your wife pushes back, tell her that you and Emma need father daughter time. She and Jennifer can take Harper to do something with them. Focus on the fact that Emma needs you and needs that one on one time with you.AITA for telling my husband that my son is important? Story Repost. This is an update to a post I made about a situation concerning my son, the mods of AITA banned it for "Violence", whatever that means, so I'll post the original here. I listen to this podcast often with my daughter so I feel posting here would be the best to get my update out.Inheritance isn't marital property. But you need to be straight up with him and tell him he isn't going to have access to it. You're gonna have to have enough spine to put your foot down. If he doesn't like it let him leave because it doesn't sound like he's contributing anything. Edit.ADMIN MOD. AITA for checking my daughters' bags after my husband packed them? Asshole. My (36F) husband (39M) and I are going on a brief vacation with our daughters (twins, 5 yo). I was busy at work getting things done before I had to go away, and when I came home I saw that my husband had already packed our girls' bags, which is something ...He has been making extra money on the side as a tutor. ... AITA for telling my husband my ex and I traveled to 56 countries together? I (44F) am turning 45 August 3rd. Two months ago my husband of 5 years (45M) surprised me and said he booked us a 10 day vacation to Italy. We leave July 28th. My husband is a special ed middle school teacher …This right here. I had a scheduled induction because of my own complicated healthy issues. It turned into an emergency csection when my water broke and both mine and Baby's heartbeats plummeted. My SO was IN THE FUCKING ROOM, right by my side, when Baby and I went into distress and he still missed seeing them pull our son from my body. By the ...I told my husband to stop spending so much money on his dead girlfriend’s younger sister after he said he would pay for her wedding and buy her a house, since we are currently …I was in bed for four days with a fever ranging from 103-106 (Fahrenheit), plus chills, body aches and vomiting. It was awful. My husband, to his credit, did take care of me. He took a day off of work when he needed to, took care of the kids (14, 6, 4 and 1) solo and made sure I was staying hydrated, asked if I needed anything, etc….Tell husband that his words were disrespectful of both our marriage and our home. Tell daughter that if I am acting as a caregiver instead of her mother, I will have equal say in parenting decisions. Since husband has implied I am her caregiver but doesn't allow me to make parenting decisions in my household, I will no longer act as a caregiver.ADMIN MOD. Aita for explaining to my husband he's the reason we keep having daughters. I 30 F have 2 daughters and am currently pregnant with my 3rd girl. We just found out this morning. On the drive to my husband's mothers house he explained how he was a bit disappointed about having a girl. But then he said "I should've expected this ...Food and service was amazing, had an artist draw me and my husband while we kissed. I noticed my MIL to be wearing a white simple dress, and didn't think much of it (even though I was a little upset). To have context, she is the only one besides me wearing the color. Later, when it was photo taking time, I was going to take a photo with my husband.AITA for telling my wife I’m tired of raising a kid that is not mine. I (31m) am married to my wife Amber (30f) we have a daughter Emma (7f) the problem is my wife’s best friend Jennifer (30f) has a daughter as well Harper (7f) well Harpers dad is a lazy sack of crap and refuses to do anything with his daughter.AITA for telling my husband he's fixated on my looks. My (26F) husband (25M) has completely broken the unwritten rule of " Don't talk about your wife's weight". To give the context, I'm 5'2, 185lb. When we married 4 years ago, I was 112lb. My situation was, I was working terrible hours, I turned to a lot of fast food, late night eating, late ...If I were a husband, I would get it right. I would ensure that my wife knew she was loved. I would kiss her every morning and bring her coffee.... Edit Your Post Published by jthre...AITA for telling my wife I’m tired of raising a kid that is not mine. I (31m) am married to my wife Amber (30f) we have a daughter Emma (7f) the problem is my wife’s best friend Jennifer (30f) has a daughter as well Harper (7f) well Harpers dad is a lazy sack of crap and refuses to do anything with his daughter.The situation that led me to write this post happened last Thursday, when my sister, her boyfriend and Tessa came to our place for dinner. They arrived around the same time my husband was leaving to pick Emily up from her ballet class. On his way there, he called me and said he'd gotten a text from my sister telling him to change Emily into her ...Asshole. Background: My husband (let's call him Will) is in the Navy, and he works on nuclear reactors on submarines. We've been together for 4 years, married for 2. We were at a small house party with a few friends of mine from college and we were discussing books we've all read, when at one point one of my friends (let's call him ...AITA for telling my husband that my son is important? Story Repost. This is an update to a post I made about a situation concerning my son, the mods of AITA banned it for "Violence", whatever that means, so I'll post the original here. I listen to this podcast often with my daughter so I feel posting here would be the best to get my update out.Yup as a married woman myself you “leave and cleave” meaning you leave your family of origins and cleave to the family you create with your spouse. And as a married man you do the same. Actually. the Bible says that that’s what the man is supposed to do, so he’s even more responsible for it.I love my husband to pieces but I am so sick of being the adult in this. 5 months ago a huge fight happened mistakes where said and done the result now we are separated. We were working it out it just took me a little longer to be ready to talk because I had to figure out money (stay at home/working mom) my son and still sort through my feelings.It makes complete sense that he wants to do that. If he was my husband, this would make me love him even more and I would admire how kind he is. You'd have some say if your finances were together, but being separated means he is right, it's nothing to do with you. Just be proud that generous to his loved ones. 3.This can just be another way for the wife to get attention and be in the spotlight. Throwing herself on the sword so to speak. My mom has similar behaviors as OPs wife (narcissistic tendencies) and will do this when she feels there is more attention and reactions to gain from it. Sometimes taking it to the extremes.My engagement ring and wedding band was $4,000. Our wedding was $25,000 and I paid for my husband's wedding band which was $2,000. There isn't really a comparison between the engagement ring and the wedding as the wedding is almost always substantially more expensive.He has been making extra money on the side as a tutor. ... AITA for telling my husband my ex and I traveled to 56 countries together? I (44F) am turning 45 August 3rd. Two months ago my husband of 5 years (45M) surprised me and said he booked us a 10 day vacation to Italy. We leave July 28th. My husband is a special ed middle school teacher …r/AmItheAsshole. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole.Over the last 14-years, I, W38, have paid most of the bills. My husband, M50, had a regular full-time job until 2015 when he was laid off. Instead of looking for another job, he decided to make money independently and has some small success. In September 2021, we settled on a new house that is in my name. Before that, we lived in a house he ...My husband and I, both mid 40’s have been together for 25 years. I love him very much and our lives are intertwined. Economy, family, friends so when he told me that he still loved me but wasn’t sexually attracted to me anymore (I see you as my best friend and companion) I understood where he was coming from. He didn’t want to lose me but he wasn’t attracted …Ive 38F been married to my husband Rob 52M for 4 years now. My husband's late wife died 1 year before we met and we dated for 2 years before marriage. He has 2 kids 28-Madison and 26-Brett. Note I am not calling them my stepkids because they explicitly told me I am not their stepmom, just their dad's wife.To this my husband texted her telling how she is being disrespectful and that he would be in no contact with her as well and he blocked her as well. Soon my husband got a lot of texts saying how amy was having a meltdown and according to her, "I am manipulating and isolating my husband from his friends over trivial matters." l nearly laughed at ...Paying off debt, increasing savings, reducing taxes, investing for the future—with so many different money management goals to work on, it can be hard knowing where to focus your e...My kids have more time to study and do extracurriculars. They still have chores and they are still expected to clean up after themselves. My husband came to me last time I was …When her brother needed help, it's I who gave him money. Why? Because they are MY in-laws, and he's MY brother-in-law. I think it's my responsibility to look after their parents. She thinks it's her responsibility to look after mine in another way. It's absolutely NOT one-sided on my part. My wife Lisa and I have been together for a while.My little sister was 12 when I got married and was definitely not interested in the flower girl position. 😄 At 12, many girls are at or near full adult height and do not want to be wearing the foofy little dress and doing a job meant for a little kid (though I can certainly imagine some outliers who would still have fun with it.)Life in gold rush towns and encampments was economically and physically difficult for miners. Many had spent their life savings or borrowed money to travel to find their fortunes. ...My relationship with my step-mom drastically improved once my aunt blew up at her and my dad to stop trying to force a motherly relationship because I still have my mom and them forcing it wasn’t going to do anything but push me away. I was 14 then. I’m 29 now and we have an amazing relationship. She’s this weird blend of aunt/mom and whenever I get …Put my glass in the sink, throw my left overs away, clean up after myself. And while I don't have to ask permission to get water or a drink, I do say a bit of an announcement, "I'm going to get a glass of water." Friend, "Please do!" It's called being respectful. OP, change your garage code and don't tell the fiancee, she can't be trusted. NTAOP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I’ve asked my husband to pay for something of mine that he broke. He doesn’t feel that he should because it was an accident. Am I the arsehole in expecting him to give me the money for something that wasn’t cheap. Help keep the sub engaging!That name caused me to be bullied and damaged my professional life in ways I cannot describe. My sister is pregnant with her first child. A girl. She and her husband are ecstatic, it just sucks that she inherited my parent's stupid propensity to see their children as fashion statements. Last night, she revealed to the family the name of her ...AITA for telling my husband he was wrong for sleeping at someone's house without telling me? AITA- Me (38F) and hubby (37M) have been married 4 years now. ... but he wasn't sure 100%. Also, money was low so he didn't think it would be affordable. The day he got the confirmation email of his new appointment at the embassy, he left in the ...ADMIN MOD. AITA for telling my husband I want a divorce and money? I 30 F married 31 m in July 2023. Before we got married we dated 3 years, and had a baby 09-22. He had been caught texting some people in the beginning, but claimed he loved me so much. Fastforward to right after we got married I had a dream he was talking to someone.I asked my husband about it. He said that he didn't care but he didn't want it to "interfere" with my responsibilities at home. We also agreed the money would be mine since it's a second job. We did this for 3 yrs. It grew into where I cleaned other places for my landlord. I just put the money into savings.Recently my stepdaughter and her mom have been going through rough times. Her mom had another child with her new husband, at one point my stepdaughter and her mom had such a bad fight that her mom attempted to end parental rights. Even if this were to occur, I couldn't imagine trying to replace her mom.One could only hope it's a shitpost, but young widows/widowers get really really strange comments. I mean my mother in law said about a week after my husband passed that I was a single mom now and should try and get all the support I could. I can't imagine anyone calling an older widow single or anything, you just say they are a widow/widows.Aita for telling my son that we don't really have any room for him right now so he needs to live with his dad and stepmom? #reels #RedditAITA #redditaita #aitareddit #redditpostADMIN MOD. AITA for telling my son he needs to get over us missing his wedding. Not the A-hole. My son got married a few years ago, he lives on the other side of the country then us. He got a great job opportunity after college so he moved down. Two years ago he got married to Jenny and what I heard it was a beautiful wedding.Previously, a problem with Jareth was he used to ignore all my calls and texts & it was annoying, but he's always home. He'd answer everyone else's texts/calls but he'd ignore mine. I confronted him about it, & he worked on that. My looks are not what they were when Jareth & I got together. I've aged &very insecure about it. Jareth tells me all ...A year later I start dating my now husband. His business started raking in a lot of profits soon after we met. After we married, I kept my friendship to Marie even though she wasn't part of the Santa Barbara scene. My husband retired my mom after we got married. He also funded my boutique business. However, he is someone who gets bored easily.My wife was ordered to go to anger management, therapy, and parenting classes. Ava was brought back to us 3 times but every time she was brought back she'd run away or raise hell until she got to stay with her aunt. My wife's sister got full custody because of that. My wife has been trying to fix her relationship with Ava since the incident.Asshole. So earlier today I (28F) told my husband (30M) he needs to make more money, especially if we want to start a family. We were texting at work and I was just kinda casually telling him we need to make more money (especially living in Silicon Valley). I also told him “im waiting on you..Having a kids is in your hands….A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered!In my home country the custom is for the man’s family to pay the woman’s family, and they also have to pay for the wedding, buy a house for the couple, etc. I’m not sure what that’s called in English. I find it problematic either way the money/gifts go - it sets up the relationship as transactional, which is ripe for abuse. (Not that ...He said he had to lock me out because of my barging/snooping and continuous disrespect of his privacy. I straightup said he needed to start having his therapy sessions somewhere else since it's not okay for him to keep the bedroom busy for 4hrs. That's just too much!!!. He said I could go in and take whatever I need before he locks the door but ...r/AmItheAsshole. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole.ADMIN MOD. AITA For telling my mother in law I married her daughter and not her? Not the A-hole. My mother in law is a kind and funny woman though She does have few problems with boundaries and is a little too involved in my marriage especially now that my wife's pregnant. My wife's family aren't well off financially and it's the opposite with .... My husband (30M) and I (29F) have been married for 2 yearsNot the A-hole. A few days ago my ex-husband mistakenly transferred ADMIN MOD. AITA for telling my husband I want a divorce and money? I 30 F married 31 m in July 2023. Before we got married we dated 3 years, and had a baby 09-22. He had been caught texting some people in the beginning, but claimed he loved me so much. Fastforward to right after we got married I had a dream he was talking to someone. My husband insists that it should be only 4 hours (in the m Exactly, OP was trying to fix things in good faith, but this update sounds like her husband wasn't, and he wouldn't allow her to help him. I'm worried OP will feel like she should have known better or done something differently, but it sounds like this guy built a sort of emotional maze on purpose, so no matter which way she tried to turn she was always going to end up where he wanted.The kids were confused because they have always known their half sister is not my child but they started to doubt because of how their mom talked (saying good men take care of all their children and loving a child who is part of your family should never be that hard). The kids approached me and asked me about it and told me their mom wanted ... I guess my pain and my marriage just isn't important. ...
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